DISQUS

Azhar Chougle · 10 months ago

Great post. I don't think that solution would work, but its an interesting thought, especially since I can't seem to think of a solution that will work

Azhar Uddin · 10 months ago

Thanks, it was just a thought or a rant. Also i wanted to extend the article by writing about neighbors and extended family (aka relatives) but realized it be too long and boring. :)

Arun Raju · 10 months ago

fear makes a person do anything, in the case above it takes a life. as you say brother its not the examination score which shows we are intelligent, its the way in which we lead our life which shows which one is better.
keep going brother. nice work.
Thank you.

azharcs · 10 months ago

True, but shouldn't learning be more about curiosity rather than fear. I totally agree with you that Real World tests everyone, not matter who they are. Thanks for the comments. :)

deb · 10 months ago

I agree. I came from that Hacker News thread, there few people from India seemed to disagree, and many from US told their parents also emphasize on good grades and they don't think its unjustified.

But there is a big difference between educated US parents 'expecting' their kids to do well & un-educated/semi-mad parents in India 'demanding' their kids to be the best. I have seen it everywhere, in bigger cities, in small towns[my place], happens with my cousins these days, other children i have seen. This is madness.

Let a kid do what he thinks is good & is within his capabilities & he will be best in that category. For example i was kind of expected, though not forced to become a software engineer, you know that boring C/C++ things ;) , but i choosed my own destiny [long story ;)]

Taare Zameen Par has great lessons.

Peace.

azharcs · 10 months ago

Good to hear that you found what you really like. :)

Taare Zameen Par FTW

Erik · 7 months ago

This is indeed a nice article for all parents as this is an eye-opener to what could possibly happen in our kids when they encounter too much pressure from us as parents. But situations like these are not only happening in children with Indian or Chinese parents...it can happen to any children in any part of the world regardless of their race when their parents expect too much from their children. Encouraging children to be successful or to excel is different from pressuring them and we should only do the former. Never pressure a child...

Vimal George · 6 months ago

I loved the apt reference to the ongoing WoW avatar madness. It struck a chord.

GabyZ · 1 month ago

Very good post. They don't realize that with all the pressure they put on they're preparing their childs to be unsuccesfull and/or unhappy for all their life, a life that 2 mad parends put on paper for them.
Most of the richest people on earth had very personal projects and many of them acqually quit school to do what made them succesfull....i quit school at 18 to make a living the way I want and by my 20s i'm sure i'll get all i want. You don't get rich/succesfull by doing the same thing the 90% of kids do: go to school, get bored and get an usual job.

If your parents don't support you, stop asking for support and go against their will even if it's not easy...and they'll see they were wrong when you're happy.