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Re: What is wrong with Chinese and Indian Parents?

Learn to Write — Wed, 15 Dec 2010 23:17:03 -0000

You might learn a thing or two from these Chinese and Indian kids. Your english is horrible.

Re: What is wrong with Chinese and Indian Parents?

php themes — Thu, 05 Aug 2010 14:53:35 -0000

this article is veryusefull for parents of india and also for china gives infomation to parents how to behave with son??

Re: What is wrong with Chinese and Indian Parents?

Paresh — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 09:58:19 -0000

As much as I love the initial observation and the premise, I strongly hate your solution given to the problem. You have drawn an apt parallel between the Identity crisis of parents and the drive to list out the achievements of children by the housewives. But the problem does not stop there. I have increasingly seen many upper middle class and even upper class (the really sophisticated kind) families to start driving there kinds to the walls. The problem is, in our country people do not define success as what you have achieved but what you may achieve. For example, they think a person who gets into an IIT/BITS/NIT has a much brighter future than a person who gets into a state level college. They fail to comprehend that the undergraduate degree is not the end of the journey, its just a stepping stone. Sure for those who get into a "Top Brass" college, the stepping stone acts more like and elevator, but so what? After we have our undergraduate degree, we stand on the same ground after few years in the industry if we have the talent thanks to the sharp eyes of Corporate HRs.

Thus the conclusive "solution" that you have drawn from your awesome observation will not really work the way its supposed to be. Also its really hard to implement.

Re: What is wrong with Chinese and Indian Parents?

Ajay Kumar (A 10th std. boy) — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 08:46:54 -0000

Awesome post Sir.... Please take the initiative of this cause...

Re: What is wrong with Chinese and Indian Parents?

GabyZ — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 08:26:30 -0000

Very good post. They don't realize that with all the pressure they put on they're preparing their childs to be unsuccesfull and/or unhappy for all their life, a life that 2 mad parends put on paper for them.
Most of the richest people on earth had very personal projects and many of them acqually quit school to do what made them succesfull....i quit school at 18 to make a living the way I want and by my 20s i'm sure i'll get all i want. You don't get rich/succesfull by doing the same thing the 90% of kids do: go to school, get bored and get an usual job.

If your parents don't support you, stop asking for support and go against their will even if it's not easy...and they'll see they were wrong when you're happy.

Re: What is wrong with Chinese and Indian Parents?

Vimal George — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 04:30:12 -0000

I loved the apt reference to the ongoing WoW avatar madness. It struck a chord.

Re: What is wrong with Chinese and Indian Parents?

Erik — Wed, 06 May 2009 12:41:35 -0000

This is indeed a nice article for all parents as this is an eye-opener to what could possibly happen in our kids when they encounter too much pressure from us as parents. But situations like these are not only happening in children with Indian or Chinese parents...it can happen to any children in any part of the world regardless of their race when their parents expect too much from their children. Encouraging children to be successful or to excel is different from pressuring them and we should only do the former. Never pressure a child...

Re: What is wrong with Chinese and Indian Parents?

azharcs — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 18:03:14 -0000

Good to hear that you found what you really like. :)

Taare Zameen Par FTW

Re: What is wrong with Chinese and Indian Parents?

deb — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 16:04:33 -0000

I agree. I came from that Hacker News thread, there few people from India seemed to disagree, and many from US told their parents also emphasize on good grades and they don't think its unjustified.

But there is a big difference between educated US parents 'expecting' their kids to do well & un-educated/semi-mad parents in India 'demanding' their kids to be the best. I have seen it everywhere, in bigger cities, in small towns[my place], happens with my cousins these days, other children i have seen. This is madness.

Let a kid do what he thinks is good & is within his capabilities & he will be best in that category. For example i was kind of expected, though not forced to become a software engineer, you know that boring C/C++ things ;) , but i choosed my own destiny [long story ;)]

Taare Zameen Par has great lessons.

Peace.

Re: What is wrong with Chinese and Indian Parents?

azharcs — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 15:14:41 -0000

True, but shouldn't learning be more about curiosity rather than fear. I totally agree with you that Real World tests everyone, not matter who they are. Thanks for the comments. :)

Re: What is wrong with Chinese and Indian Parents?

Arun Raju — Mon, 16 Feb 2009 05:24:27 -0000

fear makes a person do anything, in the case above it takes a life. as you say brother its not the examination score which shows we are intelligent, its the way in which we lead our life which shows which one is better.
keep going brother. nice work.
Thank you.

Re: What is wrong with Chinese and Indian Parents?

Azhar Uddin — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 23:13:21 -0000

Thanks, it was just a thought or a rant. Also i wanted to extend the article by writing about neighbors and extended family (aka relatives) but realized it be too long and boring. :)

Re: What is wrong with Chinese and Indian Parents?

Azhar Chougle — Sun, 15 Feb 2009 21:54:53 -0000

Great post. I don't think that solution would work, but its an interesting thought, especially since I can't seem to think of a solution that will work